In can be difficult to cope with breaking up, especially if you had been together for a while and you had felt that you both were soul mates. You are probably also hearing everyone tell you to move on and get on with things, but that can be difficult if you still love your ex and feel that they might still love you too.

A friend of mine often said that an ex is an ex for a reason and that you shouldn't travel back down an old path, but this is often easier said than done, especially if you see other couples re-uniting over problems such as infidelity, lost passion or a stolen heart and go on to live happy lives together.

This begs the question: is getting back with your ex a good idea or should you accept the situation and find love somewhere else?

To decide on the answer you need to first determine the reasons that broke the two of you up. Relationships break down over hundreds of different reasons and not all of them can be mended. If you got back together and the reason that you broke up in the first place still existed then perhaps it is better to try a new relationship.

If you are willing to change or make an effort to fix your relationship problems (assuming of course that you need to - relationships are a two-way street) then it is possible that you could get back together and be happy together.

There is still a chance that you can both be happy together if you both still do love each other. Of course often it can be difficult to determine if your ex does still love you as you have both probably said hurtful things to each other, so this is where you should trust your instincts. Sometimes people say they they hate you or no longer love you just to hurt you and don't really mean it?

It's often a good idea to step back from the situation and try and look objectively at the way you both act around each other. If you don't trust your own instincts then it can be a good idea to ask the advice of a good friend who you trust because they are less emotionally involved in the situation.

The first steps that you take in trying to mend a broken relationship can be important in determining your success so it is important to try and keep a level head.