Have you recently suffered the pain and loss of a break up, and just want to get them back? But how to get an ex back? What words will you use when you talk to them? What should you never do? How do you get them to take your calls? Below are some of the secrets you must learn on how to get your ex back.

They Want You Back.

This may be hard to swallow, but it is true. Human beings are the strangest animals on the planet. Humans must have what is familiar. Humans hate change. They may be mad and frustrated, but remove the offending emotions, and they want to you as much as you want them.

If you have been together for any length of time, they will not think they have wasted any amount of their lives. They will instead justify the time they spent with you, and the break up, in their own mind.

This is a key secret. No one wants to consider themselves inconsistent. People are not wired that way. That is why we are constantly explaining what and why we did something, and that it was acceptable. People always must view themselves as having acted within their own beliefs. You know exactly what your ex believes. This knowledge alone can get your ex back if you execute it correctly.

Appealing to someone in the same way they justify things to themselves is very powerful.

Remember for a moment a decision your ex made and was happy with. What did they say? Do they use picture words and phrases, like; I can see that, I get the picture, clear something up, etc. Do they use feeling words and phrases like; I feel what you are saying, I can't get my head around that, I am not feeling that, I get a feel for what you mean. Do they use hearing words and phrases, like; I hear you, that rings a bell, sounds good to me.

This is how their subconscious thinks. If it was a decision they were happy with, they more than likely used a combination of these. If you think back to three examples, they always use the same order don't they. This is huge. Simply tell your ex the decision you want them to make in the order they can process it.

Here is an example. Let us say your ex uses the following order when they make a decision to do something. They see themselves doing it. Then they imagine hearing what others will think, then they feel good about it and do it. Let us say you want them to meet with you. You would say something like this. Can you picture meeting me for a half hour? I know your voice in your head is saying it will be ok, it is only for a half hour. And besides I know you will feel better after we meet.

This may not feel, look, or sound persuasive to you, but it is not your order. It is theirs. You will have to use you ex's order, and if done properly, the two of you will meet.

This is only one technique you must learn on how to get an ex back. You also need a detailed plan. When to do what, what to say, and what to do. There is hope. You can learn how to get your ex back.