Were you on the road to a happy relationship and then something happened? It may have been a misunderstanding, or it could be things just haven’t gone well with your boyfriend for some time, don’t worry! Relationships are learned just like any other meaningful part of life. You can get your ex boyfriend back by taking the time to learn how to handle relationships and what to do right now.

Basically you need to answer four questions for yourself. These four questions will help you clarify if you want to get your ex boyfriend back, or if you want to end the friendship now.

First question: What really caused the breakup? Was it really serious enough to warrant a breakup?

Second question: Is this problem something you argue about?

Third question: Do you feel you are making any progress by arguing about the cause for the breakup?

Fourth question: Think about it…Is the issue really worth the heartache it has caused?

If you find that the matter is not that important then it is time to let go. Often, even a serious break can be healed if both parties are willing to let go. Usually one person will get their feelings hurt and are too prideful to give in. This can seriously damage a good relationship that can provide happiness for years to come.

So, let’s start to heal this relationship. Forget about your hurt feelings. It could be you are sensitive to a feeling, like being overweight or you don’t feel intelligent. It’s a good possibility your mate does not even recognize that trait about you at all. It has never enter his mind. Just be who you are and don’t let a unintended comment or action get blown out of proportion.

Distant yourself from your ex boyfriend mentally. This may feel uncomfortable, but let your emotions heal. Remove the stress of the conflict and let your mind and emotions rest. Once you are calm and feeling relaxed you will be emotionally prepared to begin repairing the damage to your relationship. Yes, you should stay in contact during this time, but don’t let your emotions take you back to the point of the breakup. Stay mentally and emotionally out of that area of your relationship.

Doing this will also let your partner cool from the heat of the battle. Even if harsh words were not spoken they were probably felt and need to be cleared. Once you both have settled you can begin to repair the broken communication.

Usually a broken relation can be easily patched if the two partners really care about each other. All you need to do is to calmly begin communication and talk things through. Once you both can set quietly and talk without jumping back into the battle you will be back in each other’s arms much quicker than you ever thought.

As we said at the beginning, handling relationships is a learned skill. What we have outlined above will give you a start. And, I must admit, these aren’t my ideas. When I had a relationship problem I found the most down-to-earth guide available, that really helped us with our relationship, and I think it can help you too.