Perhaps your last lover is in a rebound relationship. A rebound relationship is one where she is dating someone else just after breaking up with you, for the express purpose of making it easy for her to get over you. A rebound relationship does make it easier to deal with the emotions of a break up. The good news is that if it is a rebound relationship which she is in to get over you that means she was in love with you, and your break up made her miss you. That little bit of information is the key to getting her back.

A rebound relationship on her part indicates that there was a real love between you two. It really doesn’t matter why she lost you or if it was her fault or yours. The real love that had existed is the important part and how you are going to win her over again. Most relationships where real love existed can be saved.

Your ex girlfriend fell in love with you for a reason. So even if she is in a rebound relationship she will be thinking about you and what was wrong with your relationship. Her rebound man may be the exact opposite of you. If you were a good guy, she may now be dating a "bad boy." If you were more into books than baseball she may now be dating a sports nut.

Her focusing on the differences between men is good for you because it will show you what she felt was missing. In a round about way she is still thinking about you because she is specifically trying to date men opposite of you. Use the time she is away to improve or change something in yourself. You will never be able to change your basic personality of course, but that doesn’t mean you can’t do new things in life. In any good relationship you will have to do some things you only moderately enjoy, to give your partner some satisfaction.

You do not want to crawl back to your ex right away. Don’t be the one doing the chasing. This is very important. You need to let her rebound relationship run its course. Eventually she will get bored with the rebound guy or start to see more and more the good parts about you. Let her stew over you and remember the good times you two had.

You want her to begin to miss you. If she was in love with you she will. When she is ready to come back to you or ask you to take her back, be gracious about it. Welcome her back with open arms and then let her see gradually that you are newly improved and willing to try new things. But stick with it and don’t fall back into the same old pattern

In conclusion here are some steps you will want to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship. There is much more to be learned but these are the basics:

• Let her discover on her own that you are the love of her life

• Don’t profusely beg her to come back

• Don’t be the one chasing her and apologizing multiple times

• Don’t make promises to change things about your basic personality

• Don’t spend energy getting her to believe it wasn't your fault. She will be more agreeable if she isn’t constantly defending herself