A relationship is a tender connection between two people that needs to constantly be worked on and given time for it to prosper. So when that bond is broken it can be tense, nerve wracking and depressing time for both of you.

If you lately went through a breakup, there is a good chance you want to win ex back. But how do you do that, without being seen as clingy and desperate? To get you on the right track to win ex back here are 5 steps that I learned. They will help you come across as the stronger person - the key to winning back your ex.

STEP 1 - Stay composed:

Let's be honest. Who really likes a weak, desperate person? Nobody. So why act like that after a breakup? You need to stay composed and keep yourself from pleading, begging and showing desperation. If your ex sees that you are managing with the breakup, and actually seem to be moving on, their feelings for you may just get stronger, and your ex will be the one that struggles to move on.

STEP 2 - Avoid Communication:

This may sound completely absurd to you when all you want to do is talk to your ex and try to rekindle the love, but you need to give them space before you try to win ex back. So give yourself time alone, where you cut off all communication with your ex. This will give both of you time to come to grips with the breakup, think clearly again, and maybe see how much the relationship meant to you both.

STEP 3 - Be versatile:

After a breakup you most probably feel cheated and hurt, but that does not give you the right to play silly mind games with your ex, just to try get the upper hand. If you previously lived together, do not be childish and abrasive by giving them a date to move out by or to clear out their belongings.

Even if your ex is the one who did the breaking up, they are most probably hurting just as much as you are, so sympathize, listen to them and try not add unnecessary tension to the situation. Your ex will be positively affected by seeing the caring, flexible side of you, which may give them a reason to try mend the broken communication channels and work things out.

STEP 4 - Be Social:

So you are feeling depressed, frustrated and in no mood to see anyone else. Hey, we have all been there. But the worst thing you can do is wallow in your sorrows and feel sorry for yourself. You need to take your mind off the breakup and release some of that tension.

And what better way to do that than to get out of the house and socialize with your friends. I'm not saying you have to a suddenly be the life of the party. All you need to do is have a little fun again and form some new friendships. Forget about dating or even worrying about the opposite sex for now. Just get out there and try enjoy yourself with your friends. This will not only help get your mind off the breakup, but it will renew your confidence. And when your ex sees that happy, confident you - they will regret letting you go so easily.

STEP 5 - Stay True To Yourself:

If you want to win back your ex, you need to remember to stay true to yourself and be the person your ex fell in love with in the first place. By positively expressing the happy, confident you, it may rub off on your ex and make them feel better about themselves too.

Look I have been dumped more than once and it does not get any easier. After the breakup you feel a low sense of self worth, frustrated, depressed and desperate. If it was not for me following the guidance of a step by step system to win ex back, I may never have rekindled the romance.

While these 5 steps are a good start, they are only some of the steps and techniques I took to get the love of my life back. If you really are want to win ex back and give the relationship another shot, then I'm sure will also get substantial value from the same life-changing advice.