When you go through a break up it can hurt, a lot. Those intense feelings you may be having are not strange, but completely normal. Anyone has experienced some type of break up in their life. But what separates the survivors from the losers is the steps they take in getting over a break up. Here are 4 ways that will help:

1. Nobody Is To Blame:

Your first step in dealing with a break up, is acknowledging that nobody is to blame. It was neither you nor your ex's fault, so stop accusing them. Passing the blame does no good, but will only make you feel more resentment for each other, and prevent you from ever being friends.

You need to be dealing with a break up in a way that you recognize it was caused from your failing relationship, where communication had broken down or your needs were not being satisfied. And that if you had stayed in the relationship, you would have denied each other the possibility of having a more fulfilling relationship with someone better suited to you.

2 - Accept Your Feelings:

Our second point in dealing with a break up, is you need accept how you are feeling. There is no point trying to hide your hurt and sadness. It is better to rather feel and acknowledge your feelings. By trying to bottle your pain up, you will hurt for longer and carry that baggage wherever you go.

What you should be doing is finding a positive way to feel and express your emotions. And against to what you may think, crying is very good for you. It is a very healthy way of getting those feeling out and dealing with a break up. This brings us to our next step.

3. Manage Your Anger:

One emotion that many of us feel after a break up, is anger. We may be feelings cheated, sad and angry as we come to grips with the break up. But going out and getting back at your ex, will not help you get over your anger. If you remember, nobody is to blame for your failed relationship, so there is nobody to get back at. Rather scream into your pillow or tell a friend how you feel, as a way of expressing your anger and getting over a break up.

No matter how much you think your ex intentionally hurt you, do not try to hurt them back. Acting like this will make you look like a weak, immature loser, and you will feel worse for doing it. What you should be doing is focusing on getting over a breakup by accepting it and realizing that there is nothing you could have done to prevent it from happening.

4 - Keep The Faith:

The final step in getting over a break up is to keep your faith. So what if you went through one bad break up? It does not mean you will never be happy again. Keep your hopes up and remind yourself that your true love is still out there waiting for you. Be positive and you will find it easier to move on to better things.