I don't need help to get my boyfriend back right now (I did once) - but I'm betting that you do? I see and hear it all the time. A woman gets dumped by her boyfriend - or she dumps him and then realizes that it was a major mistake - and then all you hear is "I need help to get my boyfriend back."

There are pages and pages on the Internet filled with advice on just how to do it too. All sorts of them!

The GOOD ones all have the same first piece of advice for those who need help to get their ex back too. It's a piece of advice that MOST of us don't want to hear - but there is a TON of validity to it.

Time - purely and simply - it's time. Taking some time away from your ex is the single most important step you can take. Your cry for help - your "I need help to get my boyfriend back" scream IS being answered. Are you listening? Or are you one of those people that asks for advice and then stops listening when you don't hear what you want to hear? Or one of those people that ask for help and then, when they learn that it might be hard - you don't listen?

My purpose is not to badger you or make your life more difficult - you already have enough of that by your desire to get your boyfriend back. You're tired, you're lonely and you're maybe a little desperate.

Usually when you hear those calls for help, those "I need help to get my boyfriend back" (or girlfriend, for that matter), you really do want to help. Most humans are compassionate. We know that mistakes get made in even the best of relationships every single day. Most of us have been there at some point in our lives. Advice is easy to give - taking it is a little harder.

When we're sad, lonely, tired and desperate - we often don't think things through clearly enough to make sound decisions. That's why it's the SMART people who DO ask for advice. Who DO say something like "I need help to get my boyfriend back."

We need someone who is a bystander, an unbiased opinion, to help us find the way. So we need to learn to listen - really listen to the advice we are given - and then follow through on that advice.

Think about it. If you're searching the Internet for advice or help to get your boyfriend back and 20 sites that you visit tell you to take some time - step back and evaluate the situation (no matter how they actually word it) and ONE site gives you some tricky-dicky way to get him back in your arms tomorrow - what would be the SMART thing to do? Who is giving you advice that you want to hear and then who is giving you advice that is sound and true?

Bottom line for all of you who are screaming, "I need help to get my boyfriend back"?

Step back - think it through - and follow the advice of someone who tells it like it is.