When men and women are dating, they always seem to make

assumptions about what is going on in the other person's mind.

They have already decided on what the other person is thinking,

what the other person wants, or what they need. Assuming things

like this will lead to nowhere, fast. All that you will do is

create misunderstandings, guilt, and potential embarrassing

moments.

Here is a little story: Stacy's sister was having a beautiful

romantic wedding ceremony. Of course Stacy wanted to bring her

date Michael to the wedding to share this incredibly romantic

experience with. During the wedding festivities Stacy was

flowing with joy and love that was in the air from the entire

wedding atmosphere.

She asked for Michael's hand and wanted him to look deep into

her eyes as they danced. But Michael acted cold towards her.

Unfortunately for Stacy, Michael had already been bitten by the

love bug for another girl just a week earlier and just went with

Stacy because he thought that she just needed a friend to go to

the wedding with.

The following are lessons that we can learn from Stacy's

experience:

• Do not have expectations. Whatever happens between two people

is unpredictable and some people will react poorly to demands

early on in the courtship. Without expectations then few

feelings will be hurt if the date goes poorly and better yet if

the date goes good, then it will be a 'bonus'.

• Make sure that you both openly agree on exactly what the date

is about and what you each are there for.

• Be totally honest with each other about other relationships

from day one. If you are seeing somebody on a casual basis, be

open about it!

• Be clear with each other exactly what the date plans are to

be. Sometimes the person is not aware or not interested in what

you have planned, which may cause the outcome to be upsetting to

both of you.