Cultivating self confidence comes casually to some people, if you are like me though and aren't one of those lucky ones, then you have to set a goal and formulate a plan to reach it to have more self confidence. Fortunately, self confidence is a craft that you can learn to change just like riding a bike or driving a car / truck.

The first time you taught yourself to ride a bicycle, that was your goal and the first step towards that goal would have been to start with a tricycle. You have to know that you are able to pedal and to travel on a vehicle. Next is to try a bicycle with training wheels. Now, you are moving closer to your end goal but with a little built-in help so you do not fall over. Next thing to try is to have someone hold you upright on the bicycle with out the training wheels. After lots of practice, you will finally learn to ride the bicycle without any help at all.

Having self confidence in other things is the same. Set your goal and develop a plan and action items to achieve that goal.

The goal of self confidence in dating:To build dating confidence: Begin with talking. Talk to everyone you deal with during your day. The guy at the bus stop. Make eye contact and say hi, get used to speaking to the opposite sex. Try hanging out with that special person at a group event. It will be much less intimidating for both of you when you are just doing something with the whole group. Now, try some double dates. This is a more private setting where it feels more like a date. You can get used to dating this person. When you have more confidence with double dates, you can then go on dates by yourselves. They will give you positive feedback and it will cultivate your self confidence. You can also ask them for advice to build on your knowledge and be able to perform with even more confidence. These people usually have had a few drinks and are in a jovial mood. There is less emotional stress performing in front of them. After that, you can try to find an opening at a local club. Now, you can perform in front of people that are looking for food and entertainment. But since, it is a tavern or restaurant, they are not all only watching you, making it less intimidating. With many of these performances behind you, you will achieve self confidence.

Here are some other quick tips to have self confidence:

Learn from you failures.

Be assertive.

Reward yourself whenever you succeed.

Don't worry about what others think.

Practice good hygiene.