Are you looking for more calm satisfying experience with

you daily life?

Do you get frustrated with yourself at the end of the day

because you've gotten stressed, unfocused or agitated?

Are you tired of getting over emotional and worn out.

Whether you are experiencing one or all of these feelings

here are my 5 best tips on reducing the unwanted feelings

so that you will feel calm and satisfied with yourself each

day.

1.Catch yourself when you exhibit a feeling of behavior

that you don't like and change it.

At first you may not notice the feeling until after you

have gone through it, that's fine.

Think about how you would rather have felt.

Think about how you would rather have handled yourself.

Decide how you want to do it next time.

As you continue with this process each day you will find

that you will notice more easily what you are doing

throughout the day.

You will begin to catch yourself earlier and earlier as you

do this.

Eventually, you will be seeing yourself while you are doing

it, then stop yourself.

At some point you will be able to notice before you even

begin to feel and react in the undesirable way.

Here is where you will actually begin to change the way you

react to the situations in your life and change your

behavior.

2. Stay centered all day by refocusing throughout the day.

Develop the habit of paying attention to your mindset as

the day goes on.

Several times a day, step away from what you are doing to

get re-centered.

Sit down close your eyes and take several long slow deep

breaths while imagining the tension washing slowly out of

your body.

Notice your breathing getting slower and calmer.

Just think about your breath.

Try to keep from thinking about anything in particular.

It's ok to not be actively thinking for a while!

3. Watch out for your expectations.

You are setting yourself up for failure, upset and

frustration when you set too many standards as to how you

think things should be.

Think about what leads you to getting upset?

Why does it set you?

Notice that you decide how many things should be, based on

your own outlook and desire.

The things others do that are not to your liking, even the

things you do that don't match your expectations.

Ask yourself, really how important is it that they be

exactly that way?

Ask, who am I to insist that they are that way?

Does it matter that much?

Is it worth getting myself worked up about?

Choose which expectations are really important for you to

hold on to and which ones are not.

Holding on to many expectations just complicates your life,

with constant judgment.

Simplify your life and reduce the stress!

4.Delegate.

This applies to your personal life as well as at work.

Most of us think of delegating as a workplace skill, but it

can apply personally as well.

We are all very busy these days with our activities and

duties.

Trying to fit it all in and get it all accomplished can

lead to tension.

For various reasons, many of us have developed the habit of

thinking we must do it all ourselves.

Take a look at your situation.

Think about it, really, how important is it that everything

must be done perfectly to your standards?

Are you sure there are not other people who can assist you.

Are the other people in your life pulling their weight?

Many times we get into habitual ruts that don't need to be

as they are.

Look at what has been, with the eye of reducing the

pressure on yourself.

5.Accept other people as one.

As you think of yourself as different and separate from the

rest of mankind, you unknowingly create thinking and

behavior that separates you from others.

This kind of separate thinking leads us to think we are

superior to others which leads to judgment then selfish

thinking and behavior.

We are then having an internal battle with others, which

brings on fear, competition and comparison, ending in

frustration and anxiety.

Look to discovering how to see yourself as one with all of

mankind, not as separate.

Focus on what we have in common rather that the relatively

small uniqueness.