If you are in the position of looking for a divorce lawyer then there are steps you need to take; some guidelines on what to look for are below:

 *A Specialist in this area *Behave in the proper manner, befitting the situation *Reputable

 You will need an attorney where at least fifty percent of their work is in this area and unless you're expecting problems, preferably one trained in divorce mediation that practices it professionally. They must be someone you can trust and work with comfortably; someone who has your confidence.

Those attorneys who prefer mediation will look to solve problems by talking and not through the conflict based approach many attorneys wish to provide. A divorce lawyer is a busy person so before you contact them know exactly what information you need them to supply.

Costs are always an issue so write down everything you want to ask and in a logical order always making sure there is an accurate record of times dates and the duration of conversations. Try to keep actual meetings to a minimum and where points have to be clarified, use the phone or send a letter.

Regard your attorney as a resource, not someone you depend on for emotional support because they cost too much for you to use them for sympathy and consolation; besides, you have family and friends for that. To get the best out of your divorce lawyer, leave any petty arguments you and your spouse have, aside from the divorce case.

The most important aspect for you to get sorted out is the control of the situation which should be yours and then you will be able to use your lawyer more effectively. You are employing them for their experience but at the same time you need them to understand that it is your divorce and you want to make the decisions about how it is too proceed. As the person paying for their service, you should expect to be sent copies of any relevant documents and if there are any issues that need to be clarified that a prompt response by them is expected.

There are instances when you may not actually need direct legal representation but may just wish to use the services of a lawyer for advice on legal aspects like a marital settlement. After you have organized all your facts and read about how the law works in your case, if you still have questions about the law or the likely outcome, write all your questions down and ask your lawyer. If the break up is relatively amicable then a marital settlement might be the better option and the use of a divorce lawyer could be restricted to just help with this task.