I recall reading an article in the UK press about the revenge taken by a "woman scorned". Her response to her husband's affair was very dramatic to say the least; she cut the legs and arms off all of his suits and then set about distributing the contents of his celebrated wine cellar around the village in which they lived - one or two bottles on each and every doorstep, together with their morning milk delivery! Quite inventive.

And then I'm sure we all read about the case of a certain man whose furious wife decided that cutting legs off suits simply wasn't enough and took a knife to his manhood instead. I subsequently read that he turned this to his advantage by becoming a porn star; Apparently so many people wanted to see his "wotsit", he not only had it sewn back on again, he had a couple of inches added aswell!

This doesn't appear to be an uncommon occurrence; just Google "cut off his willy" and there are numerous references to this form of revenge. In fact I did hear that some ladies have taken this one step further, and attached their partners' manhood to helium balloons so as to ensure that they would not be able to have them sewn back on again. Ouch!

What is the message being conveyed? Is the aim simply to make sure that they won’t be able to do THAT again? Or "you hurt me and so I'll hurt you", in the spirit of "an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth"? Or is it to expose their actions to the world at large, to embarrass them just as you feel you have been embarrassed? Is it simply a way of lashing out? All of the above are intertwined, I'm sure.

Not everyone responds in such a dramatic manner. Have you watched the film "the women"? It's an intriguing film, with Meg Ryan (in the most recent version) playing the housewife who thinks everything is running along quite smoothly...until she discovers her husband's dalliance with the perfume girl in their local upscale store.

This film depicts every type of woman, all ages, shapes, sizes and mentalities - and each has their own take on how the husband should be dealt with. The mother's is the voice of reason (and experience) recommending a stiff upper lip combined with a period of playing hard to get, and letting him know what he is missing. Sensible woman - this approach was working rather well, until friends added their opinions into the mix!

But, how do you control your emotions, and turn a blind eye, when your heart is breaking? And how do you know if your partner is just having a minor dalliance or if they have really fallen in love? It's very difficult, if not impossible, to be logical when your emotions are involved. Logic and emotions are like "oil and water" and rarely do they mix well in these circumstances.

In fact whenever you are confronted with a situation perceived as a threat (and this type of circumstance definitely falls into that category) your higher brain functions are effectively cut off, ensuring that you cannot think logically. One has to step back and calm down before your logical brain can re-engage. Your emotions definitely need to be managed in such circumstances.

Whether it's best to lash out or to turn a blind eye is a matter of personal opinion. Either way, there's a lot you can do to help yourself to think logically and deal with an undesirable situation in the most effective manner possible. And if it does end in a permanent rift, it's massively important to be your own best friend and to make it as easy as possible for you to move on.

There is an art to moving on after a broken relationship, but you can learn it, and apply it. Hypnosis is extremely useful in all this as in itself it is a state of relaxation, and allows you to take a step back and think logically; you can rebuild your confidence and see things from a different angle with a few well placed suggestions...and prepare yourself to attract a better partner into your life.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis mp3 downloads and hypnosis recordings.