Men And The Problem Of Sexual Performance Anxiety

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  • Author Jocelyn Snider
  • Published March 28, 2009
  • Word count 616

Sexual performance anxiety great affects men's self-confidence.

Anxiety is a normal part of life; therefore, it is likely that most people experience anxiety at some point in their lives. Anxiety keeps us alert and helps us cope in every stressful event or situation. But, there is a type of anxiety that is common to men when we talk about sexual issues- men's sexual anxiety. Men's sexual anxiety affects their performance in bed. This issue is hardly ever discussed openly for fear of losing their macho-image. Male's sexual performance anxiety is described when a man has trouble getting "his thing up".

Men who have sexual performance anxiety usually worry about whether they do get a penile erection and when they are about to have sex, they lose their erection, or it can be that when they are actually in the course of having sexual intercourse, they lose the genital erection, or they don't get their "thing" stubbornly up at all. Sexual performance anxiety can happen to men in any of those situations. The real deal is usually that you are focusing relatively on the final goal, which is of course "orgasm", or pleasing your partner with an orgasm, instead of focusing on all the rest of what goes on in the sexual encounter. Concentrating more on the relationship and the intimate experiences that you are having as a contrary to the final goal, to make the story short focus on enjoying the whole process of sexual intercourse and not torment yourself by thinking the end result.

There are actually a large number of different treatments, as far as sexual performance is concerned. One of the treatments targets the erectile dysfunction (ED) known as the sensate focus technique. Through a series of four stages, the first thing that you should learn is to stop focusing on the outcome (orgasm) and worrying about whether or not you climax ahead or satisfy your partner to reach that first, instead concentrate on what the sensory stimulation is like, savor the actual moment of being stimulated, find out what are the ways in which you can reach the "peak" and pleasure each other, these will take your anxiety off of what's going to happen at the end. And once you're through with that stage, move on to the second where you'll be caressing, touching, and communication with clothes off. The third stage is actually being inside your partner but no thrusting, and the last stage is now the thrusting. But, the focus is on the sensations (or called sensate focus).

Analytical Therapy, which is psychotherapy/psychoanalysis using hypnosis, can be very effective in dealing with more deep-seated problems that most men have. Though ED and other sex interferences can have biological causes, many of the problems are psychological. Hypnosis can reduce sexual performance anxiety to promote a more relaxed and confident sense of self, optimize self-esteem, happiness and boost self confidence.

Another remedy is prescription drug treatments therapy. There are two types of penis erection drugs that can boost your self-confidence. The medication that goes to the brain to get an erection, and the other works directly to the genital. Uprima medicine works by enhancing nerve signals that causes nerve signals to be sent from brain to the male genital organ, which results it to become erect. Other drugs like Viagra, Cialis, or levitra are some of the drugs to choose from for erectile dysfunction treatment.

Men sexual performance anxiety is one of the issues that are not very popularly discussed publicly. The reasons of men's sexual performance anxiety are either the result of how they feel or because of genital erectile dysfunction. Whatever the reasons maybe, sexual performance anxiety is curable!

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