Your ability to deal with other people determines your social mental health and how you deal with feelings of anxiety. Even the most confident people have at one stage of their life suffered from some kind of social shyness although most do not recognize the symptoms.

If you find it challenging to cope with everyday social events, you are not the only one. There are many ways we can develop social anxiety or social shyness. Due to the receptive nature of being human, and the fact there is still a lot of stigma surrounding issues of mental health, most people deny themselves the help that is offered.

If we fall ill with a physical disease, we are a lot more open in sharing our problem. Feeling down is often seen by the person as a flaw in their character. If you think you are suffering from this condition it is important to not feel ashamed. In this day and age mental illness can be treated without the use of medication in most cases.

What is it that gives us mental strength? Well, some of it seems to be genetic. Mental health is well renowned to be partially attributable to inherited factors. Life experience also plays a big part when it comes to mental strength. When we are happy with our current lifestyle, we feel more self confident in who and what we are.

The root of many social anxiety problems is caused by the lack of self confidence and can be overcome by believing in yourself. If you feel comfortable with yourself that feeling will emit from you as self confidence which in turn will be sensed by others who will then see you in a different way.

One of the best ways to build self confidence is to make sure that you have some order in your life, if you know were you are and were you are going it will make you feel more confident. You need to think whether you are taking too much on, try to keep your priorities in focus. It often happens that we take on more and more things to push the feelings of social anxiety aside, this is a self defeating reaction. Be smart and think about yourself for a change and choose the extra activities you take on carefully, there is no benefit in doing extra activities if it damages your mental health.

One of the biggest factors that destroys our self confidence is concerning ourselves with what others think of us. From studies carried out in the United States on people with social anxiety, it was proven that in 60% of the cases the main cause of there social anxiety was from what they thought others thought of them.

When we make assumptions of what friends, colleague and strangers think of use, it is human nature to take the negative path. If we just applied some good sense to the thoughts, you will see how silly those assumptions are. How do we know what others are thinking? Can we read their minds? No of course not, the only reason we go down the negative path is because we choose to.

Next time you think what does that person think of me reject that negative thought and replace it with a positive thought, then over time your self confidence will build up and those negative thought will disappear. One of the main factors in self confidence is starting to like yourself and who you are, how can others like you if you don't like yourself?